Sexual Abuse…Why Are We Silent About It?

By Stacy Y. Whyte

Sexual abuse is like an infectious disease that affects women and men of all social background, color and race. Whether you are an American, Chinese, Latina, European or Caribbean woman or man abusers and rapists are no respecter of people; they attack wherever and whenever. On my research I learned that one out of every six American women has been victims of rape in their lifetime. However, let’s not forget about men they too are victims of this cruel act. Statistics shows that ten percent of all victims of sexual assault have been men.

But who is a sexual violator? It could be anyone a neighbor, a family member, a friend, a professional or even a religious leader. A person who rapes is a cold blooded human being that inflicts pain without a cause. Many of whom are without a conscience, it takes nothing for them to see you and attack you. But it takes everything for them to run from the law; so, as to avoid punishment for the hideous crime they’ve committed.

A recent survey shows that most women are raped by men they know. Generally, those women are often intimidated into remaining quiet. Sometimes the victim overlooks the attack because of the shame they carry within. They also fear that no one will believe them and they’ll be blamed and be victimized all over again by society. However, the biggest concern most victim has is their identity being revealed in the news media. The cycle of not reporting the assault is something we need to change not tomorrow or next year but today. A violent sexual assault on a woman or a man is a crime. It doesn’t make the crime better if the attacker is known to the victim. If anything, it makes the crime far worse.

Many experts say that environmental stress can cause a man to rape but importantly, rape is a power issue. For instance, men who are not accepted by their peers and society usually feel rejected; as a means of exerting their power they resort to raping the weaker sex. People that rape needs to know just how damaging the effect has on their victim. Often times, this cripples the victim’s life and dreams for the future. It also creates a trust issue for the victim and in many circumstances their self esteem gets shattered.

The Effects of Being Sexually Assaulted                                                                   The victims generally encounter these issues:

  • Three times more likely to suffer from depression.
  • Six times more likely to suffer from post traumatic stress disorder.
  • Thirteen times more likely to abuse alcohol.
  • Twenty six times more likely to abuse drugs.
  • Four times more likely to contemplate suicide.

These statistics are alarming, its time for a change. If you have been a victim of rape contact your local law enforcement office and report the crime. Being a victim of rape is not something to be ashamed of, remember you are the victim and not the criminal. Once again, if you have been a victim of rape please report it so that the perpetrators can do the time for the crime. As always for your protection and safety watch your surroundings keenly and be vigilant in your in’s and out’s. Contact the sexual violence crisis centers in your area for support and counseling.

            National Sexual Violence Resource Center                               877.739.3895

Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour. 1 Peter 5: 8 NLT

Lean on, trust in, and be confident in the Lord with all your heart and mind and do not rely on your own insight or understanding. Proverbs 3: 5 AMP

 The steps of a good man are established by the Lord, when he delights in his way; though he fall, he shall not be cast headlong, for the Lord upholds his hands. Psalm 37:23-24 ESV

Prayer: Father we pray for the victims of sexual violence of every kind today, Lord we pray for healing and deliverance from this pain and shame that they may be experiencing at this time. Father help them to forgive the offender and we pray that the offender will seek your face for forgiveness. Father bring conviction to the violators so that they can stop and give them the boldness to go forward to the authorities.  Father we turn the victims over to you and Father help them to not just survive but thrive and be successful. We pray for your peace to enter their hearts and help them to start enjoying life again in Jesus name. AMEN!


  • Doreen Lovell

    This is good timing. This needs to be told now than before; sexual immorality, rape and sodomy is on the increase—-it is the end times.

  • Stacy, this is certainly an important issue, and your call is vital, especially to the mental and spiritual health of the victims of sexual violence. I feel that one contributing factor to the increase of these types of crimes, is the entertainment industry’s fixation on sex, saturating society with sexual imagery and innuendos. Seems that society is preoccupied with it— another cause of so many abortions. In this age (the last age I believe) morals have loosened considerably, and what would have shocked us fifty years ago, is the norm today. Yet men and women can regain their sensitivity to sexual imagery and suggestion, by returning to God with a whole heart, changing that channel, spending time in God’s word, and voicing an out cry against open and free sex. Put it back in the marriage bedroom where it belongs, and make it beautiful again, as God meant it to be. Thank you for the post—Sheldon B.

  • Edna D

    Sister Stacy the really speaking to you there are so many people who have gone through all the different kind of abuse some suppressed it but thank god He is using you to talk about it. May the lord heal those who need to be heal. Thank god for you woman of god

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