When two people find each other and fall in love, it is always difficult to hear about an affair and even catch the love of your life in the arms of another. Betrayal in love creates a volcanic eruption of pain in the heart of the one that finds about the affair. The act of cheating affects everyone that is involved—it breaks hearts and causes division in the most intimate relationships. A relationship is built on trust and whenever the walls of trust has been broken it is very hard to get it back. In order for the relationship to be successful it takes two people to willingly work together, thinking of each other’s needs and desires and making decisions together for the advancement of that bond.

There aren’t any perfect marriage or relationship, to make your relationship work you must take the needs of your spouse into consideration and be willing to compromise to maintain peace in your home. You will never have things your way all the time, and just because your spouse does not say yes to everything does not mean they’re disrespecting you and their love towards you has changed. It simply means they have a difference of opinion and you must respectfully agree to disagree and not look for comfort from someone else because you are angry, mad or disappointed about the disagreement with your spouse.

Disagreement in a relationship is not an excuse to cheat on your spouse, that is disrespectful and distasteful not just to your spouse but to God. Marriage is honorable before God and the marriage bed should not be defiled; sleeping with another person is you actually saying to God your statures means absolutely nothing to me. When the covenant is dishonored it hinders the prayers and it creates setback and stagnation to occur in your life. As sisters you need to keep it real and be your sisters keeper and send that man home to his family. You should not even entertain a conversation of that magnitude with that man. The first time he makes the mistake and present that to you—you need to check him and send him home let him know you are not that kind of woman.

For the sister that is feeling broken from a heart break, you will rise again and today is the start of a brand new dawn in your life. The affair may have bent you out of shape and twisted your heart but it could not have taken you out because God’s grace was hovering over you all along. You are more than a conqueror, the enemy could not kill you and God is using this incident to build your character in Him and strengthen you. It’s time for you to recover all and reclaim the victory. Sis if you choose to give your spouse another chance, it’s alright God has the power to heal all wounds and bring restoration to you and your spouse. Take a deep breath and start by doing the following:

• Pray and fast regularly and seek the guidance of the Holy Spirit as you go through the recovery process for reconciliation.
• Release your pain to God, open your heart to Him and He will bring healing and restoration to you.
• Walk in forgiveness, though it maybe a hard thing to do, look beyond the indiscretion and ask God to give you the grace to overcome so you can start over. Forgiveness is a journey that you have to take in order for you to experience the fullness of God’s glory in your life.
• Don’t rush yourself to get back to the place you were before the affair, take your time. Healing is a process and it does not happen overnight it takes time.
• Take the time to rediscover your spouse and go on regular dates with each other to rebuild the intimacy so you can rekindle the spark and the romance in the relationship again.
• Avoid heated arguments that involves you reminding your spouse and yourself about the affair when you are tempted to do so walk away and meditate on the word of God to renew your mind and refresh your spirit.

If God release you to move on from that relationship, do so with no hesitation or reservation in your heart. Ensure that you don’t arbor unforgiveness and bitterness in your heart for that individual. Release the person so that you don’t block up the blessings that God has for you. You just never know what God will do for you, they may have done you a huge favor; though right now you’re hurting it, could be a blessing in disguise. You may not understand what God is doing now, but with time you will see that all things work together for the good of them that are called according to His purpose. God will reward you with someone who will love you and honor you as the queen that you are sis. It is time to let go and breathe so you can love again!

Sisters understand that some men also go through betrayal, so when you connect with a man that has been burnt don’t judge him. He maybe extra cautious and that’s quite fine, when he feels comfortable with you he will unveil his heart to you. Honor him as the king that he is and treat him accordingly and you will receive the same level of love and respect that the queen that you are deserve.